We all want long hair! This is a well known fact because even though we care for our hair and we want it to be healthy, the ultimate goal for the majority is usually length. We spend hours reading blogs and watching tons of Youtube videos to learn how to care for our beautiful curls because we someday want to enjoy long, luscious hair. As a black woman I’m sure that you might be aware of the fact that many black women have been told that they don’t have good hair (based on the texture of their hair and their hair type), and that they can’t grow long hair.This knowledge may be a driving factor behind many women’s will to achieve long hair. At least it was mine!
I wanted so bad to grow long hair that I became length obsessed, and ultimately that lead to breakage and damage. At the time I had relaxed hair, and I thought that if I relaxed my hair frequently then I wouldn’t have to deal with the two textures and potential breakage. Boy was I wrong! The relaxer broke my hair hair off and my dream of having long hair was taken away from me. LOL, maybe that last part was a bit dramatic, but hey I really wanted long hair.
Now I don’t want you to get me wrong because wanting long hair is not a bad thing. I still want to grow my hair long, but this time around I will be more careful about what I do to my curls. The thing that makes length obsession a bad thing is actually the “obsession part”, and the fact that we might do things to our hair that might not be best in the best interest of our curls.
Hair grows on average a 1/2 inch per month. Some women are fortunate to have a little more (3/4 inch per month), and some may only achieve a 1/4 inch per month. The fact is your hair is always growing! The only way that your hair doesn’t grow is if you have developed some type if alopecia or if you have an internal condition that damages the hair follicles. The big secret to getting long hair is “”drumroll” retaining your length! Yes that’s it! Focus on retaining your length and you will achieve the length that you want.
Are you length obsessed?
Here are some things that you might be guilty of if you’re length obsessed!
- You use weird mixtures on your hair to try and grow it faster.
I have seen women on youtube using weird concoctions on their hair and claim that it grows it overnight. The weirdest one I think I’ve seen is the use of Monistat to increase hair growth. If you don’t know what monistat is it’s a vaginal anti-fungal cream used to treat yeast infections. I don’t know if it works because I’ve never tried it, but I thought that it was a weird thing to apply to the hair. If you’ve used it and it worked or it didn’t please share with us your experience. But remember hair grows about a 1/2 inch per month.
2. You don’t want to trim your hair.
Although trimming the hair may sound counterintuitive to the goal of length, but in actuality it is a great way to retain length. The ends of the hair are the oldest and most fragile parts of the hair strands, and over time they get frayed and damaged from manipulation. This causes the hair to split from the bottom and work its way up the strand if they aren’t removed. It is very important that you trim your hair when necessary to stop breakage and retain length. So don’t be afraid to trim when needed!
3. Length is all you think about.
Like I said before wanting long hair is not a bad thing, but you must put the health of your hair before the length. Keeping your hair healthy will not only allow your hair to be thick and voluminous, but over time you will experience length. Without health you will not have the length that you want. Make sure that you keep your hair moisturized, trimmed, and clean for the best chance of growing long hair.
4. You flat-iron every week just to see your length.
I know that not everyone flat-iron just to see their length, but there are many of us who actually do this. Your hair is always growing, so I would recommend that you focus on keeping your hair healthy and strong and let it do its thing. Applying heat to the hair frequently isn’t healthy, and it will ultimately lead to breakage.
5. You do a length check every week.
I’m so guilty of this one! I use to do a length check every single week to see if my hair had grown any longer than the previous week, but of course I didn’t experience any more growth because hair does not grow overnight. This can become very frustrating and may cause you to give up on your hair journey because it may appear that your hair isn’t growing. I would advise that you document your growth by comparing pictures over time or doing a length check no sooner than every 2-3 months. This will allow your hair to grow out and you will then see the progression of your growth.
Are you length obsessed? Leave your comments below.
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