Hello love, I’m back with another article after a long hiatus because chile I was super-duper busy, and I had to put in plenty of hours into setting up my new hobby turned business venture. I now run an Etsy bath and body shop where I sell handmade soaps, lip balms, lotion, bath bombs, etc, and that has been taking up all of my time! But I will tell you all about that later!
In this article I want to talk about a few reasons why many of us afro-textured hair ‘sistahs’ are getting frustrated with our beautiful curls and may want to return to the creamy crack. Embracing our coils and kinks should be liberating, exciting, fulfilling, but for some reason many of us find our hair difficult to manage and even prefer synthetic hair to our own. To be truthful natural hair takes more time to style and wash than say relaxed hair or maintaining a weave, but I think that by changing a few things you can have a successful hair journey. Here are 4 reasons your natural hair journey is stressful.
- “Comparison is the thief of joy!”
Personally I think that one of the most frustrating things while embarking on any journey is experiencing slow or no progress, but I also think that comparing your personal journey to someone else’s makes it even more frustrating. When I started my transition in October of 2015 I was constantly watching natural hair videos to prepare myself for the big chop, but at that point in time I caught myself overly thinking about what my hair type will be once I remove the relaxed hair and how fast my hair would grow. Once I finally removed the relaxed ends and was going through the TWA phase I was watching women who were at a similar stage and I was comparing my growth to theirs.
This became very frustrating because if there was someone with longer hair than mine at a similar stage in the journey I would find myself thinking that I’m not doing enough to enhance my hair growth. But the truth is everyone’s hair grow at different rates, therefore, even if you’re at the same stage (same amount of time, etc) you will have grown a different quantity/length of hair. This constant comparison became very stressful, and personally I found that after I quit worrying about my hair, stopped doing length checks, and stopped wishing my hair would grow faster I started having a stress free journey that produced health and length.
The best thing to do is to keep it simple with cleansing, conditioning, protein treatments, healthy diet, hair TLC, and exercise, and you will indeed see a difference.
2. You want to try every hair product that’s ever made
I know you’ve heard of the term ‘Product Junkie’, but if haven’t, a product junkie is someone who strives to buy and try every single hair product on God’s green earth without committing to using one brand or product. Many of us naturalistas who are product junkies usually have one or more of these issues:
- Unfavorable hair conditions that we have no idea to fix because we don’t know what caused it.
- We might go broke one day due to spending all our money on hair products.
- Running out of house space because we have so many products.
- ”’Have no money for food because we prefer to buy hair products (lol….just kidding)””
When I became aware of proper hair care (I was relaxed at the time) I bought insane amounts of hair products because I thought that more was better. Whenever I would run into hair issues like exorbitant amounts of shedding I wouldn’t have a clue what the culprit was, so I was stressed (which of course leads to more shedding) which lead to massive frustration. My philosophy with hair care is to always keep it short, sweet, and to the point, and I have reaped great success with that method.
3. Understand that Going Natural is an Adventure and a Journey
I love adventures! But the thing about adventures is that you do not have the slightest clue what you’re going to run into. But I love the uncertainty. The thing about embarking on a natural hair journey is that in order to have a successful, fun, liberating and exciting ride is that you must understand that you have to be patient, consistent and expect things not to go your way all the time. I know, I know that doesn’t sound like fun!
When many of us go natural we expect to grow waist length hair overnight because we are now sporting stronger and thicker curls than in our relaxed days, but one thing that we must take into consideration is that if you don’t care for your hair you will not retain length. There will be small or even large setbacks thrown in the mix (it happens for all of us) , so don’t be ready to throw in the towel because we all experience them in different shapes or forms. The best thing to do is to be conscious of what you do to your hair so that you’re able to maintain the health of your curls.
4. You don’t accept your hair
This point is a huge one for me because at one point I was begging God to bless me with a hair type that was loose and curly like the ones that I saw on tv because this was perceived as beautiful and appreciated more so than type 4 hair. I really don’t know what I was thinking because I could vaguely remember that I had type 4 hair (I relaxed when I was young, so I didn’t quite remember what my hair type was). But the point is that many of us naturalistas do not accept our hair therefore we don’t take the time to embrace and learn how to care for our own hair type which then leads to a series of hair woes and eventually going back to the creamy crack.
One of the most frustrating thing to see is my natural sisters trying to achieve a different curl pattern through the use of texturizers, creams, gels, and other products that promises to change the pattern of the curls. These products usually always causes damage (some irreversible) which brings us back to square one (starting over).
After my big chop I made the decision to accept and embrace my hair type because for me it tied into my self-esteem, and I didn’t want something as minuscule as hair to bring me down or allow me to think less of myself. Now I rock my curls with joy while I go out and conquer the world.
What is your biggest frustration in your natural hair journey?
So I mentioned at the beginning of the article about why I was away for a few weeks from the blog and like I said the reason was to get my Etsy Bath and Body Shop up and running. I’ve been making all natural handmade soaps, lotions, shampoo bars, salves, and hair products for a while now and I decided to start making them available to the public. I only ship within the US right now so you can purchase from the shop using this link. You will learn more about the shop once you go to the website. I would love your support as I get this business off the ground….:)….